A Malaysian man has opened up online about feeling hurt and sidelined after discovering that the RM1,000 he sends to his parents each month was used to help his brother purchase a new car.
Photo via Malay Mail
Posting anonymously on the 八卦部门 Facebook page, he explained that he began contributing to his parents’ “retirement fund” after graduating from university. At the time, he had just started his first job, earning RM2,800 a month on a probationary period. His mother had told him that it was time to be more responsible and to set aside some money for his parents’ old age.
He agreed without hesitation, describing himself as an obedient son. Every month, he transferred RM1,000 to his mother, despite having to manage RM800 in rent and repaying his PTPTN loan. His budget was so tight that he would think twice before buying a coffee and often turned down social invitations from colleagues to avoid extra spending.
“I thought it was worth it,” he wrote, “because my parents worked so hard to raise me.”
The arrangement continued until a visit home last month. While there, he noticed his brother pulling up in a brand new white Toyota Vios. Surprised, he asked how his brother could afford it after recently switching jobs. His brother casually replied that their mother had helped with the downpayment.
When he questioned his mother, she explained that his brother had a family to support and needed the car. The man said he was devastated to learn that his sacrifices over the years had been redirected to make his brother’s life more comfortable, rather than to secure his parents’ future as promised.
He also revealed that this was not the first time he felt treated differently. Growing up, he noticed his brother received better portions at mealtimes and larger amounts in red envelopes during Chinese New Year. When he misbehaved, he was labelled rebellious, while his brother’s outbursts were excused as stress.
“I thought things would change when we became adults,” he said. “But I am still expected to be the obedient and sensible one. Sometimes I wonder if I am even their biological child.”
网友投稿：我以为是在帮爸妈存钱养老，结果是供我哥买新车。 我大学毕业那年，刚找到第一份工作，月薪RM2800，试用期三个月。那时候妈妈跟我讲：“你以后要有点责任感，爸爸妈妈不会一直年轻。每个月给家里一点钱，我们先存起来当养老金。” 我很快...
Posted by 八卦部门 on Tuesday 5 August 2025
After sharing his story, many netizens urged him to stop making monthly contributions or to change how he supports his parents. Several suggested that he prioritise his own needs and future, rather than continuing a one-sided sacrifice.
If you were in his position, what would you do?
