The topic of love and money has once again become a hot debate online. Many are asking the same question: should a woman stay with a man who has little and build a life together, or focus on becoming successful first and then find a partner who’s on the same level?
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Amid these discussions, one Malaysian woman recently shared her experience on Threads, revealing why she decided to end her relationship with her fiancé just a week before their wedding.
According to her post, she began noticing what she called a series of “red flags” in her partner’s behaviour, describing him as “stingy.” While she initially thought he might just be saving up, his actions eventually convinced her otherwise.
She claimed that her ex refused to buy a wedding ring, wanted a cheaper dowry, and even told her to get her own wedding outfit because he “wasn’t good at choosing.” But when she asked him for money to buy it, he accused her of being calculative.
“He said, ‘You’re not my responsibility yet,’” she wrote.
The woman also alleged that her ex didn’t want a grand wedding and preferred for the ceremony to be held entirely at her side of the family. When they went out to eat, he insisted on splitting the bill, using the same reasoning that she wasn’t his responsibility before marriage.
The final straw came when he revealed how much he would “support” her financially after they got married.
“He said he would only give me RM200 a month and refused to buy a new car, saying his old Proton Wira was still fine,” she shared.
Realising that their values and expectations didn’t align, the woman decided to cancel the wedding altogether, a decision she revealed in the comments section of her post.
Her story quickly sparked discussions online, with many netizens sharing mixed views — some agreed that she had made the right call, while others felt she should have appreciated his practicality.
At the end of the day, financial compatibility is just as important as emotional connection in a relationship. While being wise with money is admirable, it becomes a problem when one partner feels neglected or undervalued. Relationships thrive on mutual respect, effort, and shared priorities — not just savings or spending habits.
So what do you guys think? Would you stay and build together, or walk away when the red flags start to show?
